Rediscovering Bedroom Magic During the Seasonal Slump
While there are a million reasons to love Christmas time, there’s one thing that isn’t so great about it – as a nation, we have less sex. The most sexless day of the year is officially December 15th, which, coupled with how busy we can be over the festive period means that some of us need a helping hand when it comes to keeping our sex life alive.
Classified ad site, Vivastreet have been working with sex expert Annabelle Knight to help couples rediscover the magic in the bedroom during this festive slump.
Annabelle says, ‘Upping your libido around Christmas can be a challenge; it can be stressful, we’re all busy with friends and family, and there’s a lot of expectation to have the most perfect time. This can mean that it’s really difficult to prioritise intimacy’.
Here she shares her five practical tips to spark desire and keep the season feeling special:
Prioritise quality time
The busy holiday season can leave little room for connection. Set aside moments to be fully present with your partner, whether it’s sharing a cosy evening in, or enjoying a festive activity together. Quality time builds emotional intimacy, which can naturally boost libido.
Manage your mental health
Christmas is notorious for high-stress levels, with shopping, social events, and family obligations piling up. Combat this with self-care practices; exercise, mindfulness, and scheduling downtime can all help to lower stress and boost libido. Remember – if your body is existing in survival mode, it won’t be able to process or experience pleasure as it should. So even if you do find time, you’re less likely to enjoy it.
Set the mood
Create a more sensual environment by dimming the lights, lighting candles, or playing soothing music. Engage in seasonal aphrodisiacs; a glass of mulled wine, chocolate-dipped strawberries, or some ginger cookies all contain ingredients known to help boost sexual desire. These simple rituals can reignite romance and help to get your intimacy back on track.
Explore your sensual side
The excitement of novelty can reignite passion. Try giving one another a sensual massage, you can get kits for this, or, as Christmas is already an expensive time use coconut oil from the kitchen, or a body-moisturiser you already have lying around. Finding fresh experiences can make your relationship feel thrilling again and to help you reconnect sexually.
Communicate your needs
As always, communication is key. Discuss how you’re feeling with your partner. Share your desires and address any concerns or challenges you feel that you’re facing. Often, being vulnerable and honest helps to foster a deeper intimacy and can help to reignite your connection. This helps to make room for a more satisfying sexual relationship.
By focusing on relaxation, connection, and by maybe getting a little creative with how you do it, you can turn even the busiest of festive seasons into a time of deeper intimacy and passion, which will help you have a happier and healthier relationship – what’s not to love!