7 Tips for Spending Christmas Solo Without Feeling Lonely
Christmas is often painted as a time filled with joy, togetherness, and endless family cheer. But for many, the season can feel isolating, especially if you’re spending it alone. Whether it’s by circumstance or choice, being solo during the holidays doesn’t have to feel like a loss. Here, Natalie Buchwald, a lead psychologist from Manhattan Mental Health Counseling, shares seven practical strategies for turning a solitary Christmas into a time for self-care, reflection, and even connection.
1. Acknowledge that this is a normal feeling
It’s okay to feel sadness, loneliness, or a lack of motivation if the holidays look different for you this year. Acknowledging your emotions is the first step to managing them.
“Scrolling through social media, it might seem like everyone has a picture-perfect holiday: big families, cosy gatherings, or romantic partners.
“But remember, that’s rarely the full story. There are countless others feeling just as you do. You’re not alone in this,” Natalie explains.
2. Give thanks
Expressing gratitude, even for the smallest things, can work wonders on your outlook. A simple gratitude journal could be a game-changer.
“List the things you’re thankful for. It could be anything from a warm cup of tea to your favourite book.
“Studies show that focusing on gratitude can improve your mood and help you see life through a more positive lens.”
3. Revisit invitations you declined and say yes
If you turned down invitations earlier, it’s never too late to change your mind. Many people decline social events out of anxiety or worry about being a burden, only to regret it later.
“Pick up the phone and say, ‘I’d love to join if the offer still stands,’” Natalie advises.
“Most people would be thrilled to include you, and you might find the connection you didn’t realise you needed.”
4. Don’t bottle it up
Talking openly about your feelings can be a relief, whether it’s with a trusted friend, family member, or a therapist.
“When you share your thoughts, it reduces activity in the amygdala, which is the part of the brain responsible for fear and anxiety.
“Opening up to someone you trust can be incredibly healing and it’s a small step that can have a big impact on your mental well-being.”
5. Volunteer
Helping others is a powerful way to find meaning and connection. The holidays offer countless opportunities to volunteer, from delivering meals to the elderly to helping at a local shelter.
“Volunteering not only helps others but also boosts your mood and self-esteem.
“Plus, stepping out of your comfort zone to support others can help ease feelings of isolation,” says Natalie.
6. Celebrate online
If in-person celebrations aren’t an option, why not take the party online? Set up a virtual gathering with distant friends or relatives via Zoom or FaceTime.
“Send gifts ahead of time and open them together on a video call.
“It’s a great way to stay connected while avoiding the stress of hosting or travelling,” Natalie suggests.
7. Plan ahead
If you’re spending Christmas solo, treat it as a day of indulgence and self-care.
“Don’t ignore the holiday, it’ll only amplify feelings of loneliness.
“Instead, plan activities you genuinely enjoy. Watch your favourite festive films, cook a delicious meal, or pamper yourself with something special,” Natalie recommends.