Loving ourselves well in a world that is not always kind to us can be a great challenge. Here are some useful tips on how you can help yourself create your best version which is irresistible to yourself and others. The time you put into your self-development is one of the wisest investments.
The mirror is your best friend…
Strive to accept your imperfections, knowing that you are doing the best you can. Make eye contact with yourself daily, using a mirror. If it seems silly in the beginning, instead of giving up, look for those qualities in yourself you like and replace your negative thoughts with positive feelings. The key is to feel better a bit more every day, if you can make this a routine, it will soon become your best habit. Reassure yourself of loving yourself often. Talk to the mirror to anyone you feel like you cannot voice your opinion with, be it family members, co-workers, friends, or acquaintances. Communicate tenderly with them too.
Do it now!
If you don’t start loving yourself right away, when do you think you will? As time goes by, you realize you can lose out on a lot only because you don’t give yourself too much credit. So when do you want to start living your best life? When you achieve something meaningful, like a long-desired career, life partner, physical look, or wealth? Why would you make it even harder for yourself? Start living your best version now. Take risks, seize the opportunities. If you keep reaching toward your goal passionately and try hard enough, no matter how many times you fail, you will be rewarded for your efforts. Yes, sometimes it takes way too long, but it is always worth it. Energy never just gets lost but you’ll be able to reap the fruits.
Stop being unkind to and hurting yourself
Be compassionate, telling negative things about yourself and others never leads to a positive outcome. When these feelings occur, remember to pause and do a conscious self-check instead! Watch your self-communication by replacing any hurtful thoughts with ones that are building you and others. At times, it might seem super hard, but know that the brain is only trying to protect you from possible danger. Listening to our well-meaning ego isn’t always the best for our development. Praise yourself for every small and big achievement. Reassure yourself you are doing a great job against all the odds. The more you praise yourself, the better opportunities approach you.
Let go with ease
Do you find yourself holding a grudge about things you cannot control? Things like, why does someone behave in a way which irritates you? Why can’t you get that promotion when you know you deserve it? Why do you always have to put up with push and pull dynamics in your relationship? Chances are, if you keep dwelling on why something doesn’t work the way you want or like it to work, you won’t find a solution to your problem. Instead, you could take the time to think about what you like about the other person or scenario and see the situation from a different angle. Appreciating the positive in someone or something always leads to improvement; we create a high-quality life with our thoughts. Plant and allow healthy thoughts only in your mind! Let go of what doesn’t serve your growth and know that what’s coming instead, will be much better.
Observe people and things cautiously before giving them credit
When you are unwilling to observe others before giving credit and assume they can be a great friend, co-worker, life, or business partner; please stop! Give the contact time, to bring out the best of it and to avoid disappointments. In our current society, we need to re-evaluate and re-learn the way we connect, and what we assume and believe in others. The best thing you can do is to act from a kind, supportive space and take precautions. Wait at least three to six months before you think you figured out someone, a social circle, your new colleagues, or your workplace. Time always shows whom and what is meant to be in your life long-term. Accept that not everything is meant to last. When you operate from a high-energy space, people will be drawn to you like a magnet, and you will be able to improve your contacts and circumstances. Don’t worry about not finding the right things and people; this is only your ego talking.
Fight for yourself and what you deem important
Stand up for your thoughts, beliefs and never give up on your dreams! It is only a question of how many times you try and get up again, once you failed. Most people who achieved something great in life, have done so countless times. Demonstrating your strength by never letting down yourself earns respect from others and an invincible feeling of self-worth that gradually shows you how much you are capable of in life.
Build healthy habits and supportive networks
Don’t become your enemy by thinking you cannot achieve something. You have the power to control your mind. Tell yourself constantly it is possible and plan accordingly. Start with the desired result going backward step by step. There is so much help and information available nowadays, it only takes a bit of dedication and enough effort to succeed. Take care of your body, feed it nourishing food and do various exercises you enjoy regularly. Start nurturing your soul by focusing on the best in yourself and others; cut the time from things that aren’t important. Make a list of the activities you want to do and put them into your calendar. Go to events you enjoy and only mingle with people who make you feel good. With every new connection, you can build a greater support network, which has an invaluable effect on your life.
By following these steps you can find more peace in your life. Enjoy the journey!
