5 Signs Your Date is Only After Sex
6 in 10 women have been dumped after Valentine’s Day — once the holiday pressure subsided, according to a survey by the dating app Flirtini. New research also reveals a worrying trend: Google searches for “is he using me or does he like me” have surged by 270% this month. Here, we break down five subtle but revealing nonverbal cues that could expose their true intentions—before it’s too late.
5 body langague signs your date’s only after sex:
1. Leans in too close, too soon
A little flirting goes a long way, but if your date is practically sniffing on your hair just minutes after you’ve shook hands—red flag! Being all in someone’s space without proper emotional build-up signals a person craves physical intimacy. ‘Bonus’ points if they touch you often under the guise of being “affectionate.”
2. Keeps adjusting their socks
Yep, that’s right. While seemingly totally random, repeatedly adjusting socks or shoes can be a subconscious sign of nervousness and readiness for action. Fidgeting with small outfit adjustments—like pulling up the socks, fixing the cuffs, or smoothing their shirt—can generally be read as uneasiness. However, in the dating context and accompanied by smoldering looks, this can be a sign someone’s not planning a deep heart-to-heart.
3. Mirrors your touch—but not your vibes
Mirroring body language is a well-known sign of connection. Some people would mimic your touch—brush your arm after you do, lean in when you do—but not match your emotions (like smiling when you smile or showing some genuine interest when you share something personal). This is a sign someone’s only responding to physical cues. We normally do that to seduce, not to build a real emotional bond.
4. Stares at your lips more than your eyes
Eye contact is key to connection, right? Keep a keen eye on your date’s gaze. Is it dropping to your lips and staying there? Well, here’s some bad news: they’re not spiritually engaging with what you’re saying but are probably imagining how you’d taste. While the attraction might be natural, if they’re more fixated on your mouth than your mind, their priorities might be of a sexual nature.
5. Sits in a ‘ready-to-leave’ position
If a person angles themselves toward the exit, keeps shifting in the seat, or only faces you when making a move, they’re likely to treat the date like a prelude to the main event (and you can guess what that is). Being really present and engaged requires a settled-in pose, both physically and emotionally.
Still unsure? Test it yourself
Start with a subtle, sexual topic and observe their reactions. Pupil dilation, faster breathing, and a deeper voice are natural signs of attraction. But here’s the twist: suddenly switch to something meaningful to you, like an emotionally significant topic. If they lean back, avoid eye contact or their tone changes, chances are this person is more interested in a short-term fling than a deep connection.