Tuesday night proved Harris is a skilled debater, with CNN and YouGov polls naming her the winner. Regardless of the political impact, we can all learn from her approach to handling any intense conversation—whether it’s a heated debate at work or just a family argument over holiday plans.
Avery Morgan, productivity expert and Chief Communications Officer at an all-in-one website for students’ needs, EduBirdie, shared her essential tips for mastering the art of argument.
With Google searches for ‘why Kamala won’ up by 6900%, here are four debate-inspired tips for any argument:
Stay fact-focused
In a heated argument, it’s tempting to stretch the truth or twist facts to support your point. But watch out—if your claims are debunked, it’s game over. Just like Trump’s misrepresentation of the Virginia governor’s abortion stance, inaccuracies can quickly unravel your argument. Getting caught in inaccuracies not only damages your credibility but also distracts from the real issues. Stick to the facts and tackle your opponent’s real points. This keeps you credible and the discussion productive.
Ask targeted questions
In any disagreements, vague complaints or sweeping statements can be dismantled by asking specific, targeted questions. In debates, Trump made broad claims about criminals pouring into the U.S., but Harris brought the discussion back to policy specifics, challenging him to back up his statements. When facing general accusations or complaints, ask questions like “Can you give an example?” or “What specifically are you referring to?” to get clarity and shift the conversation toward more actionable points.
Own your emotions without losing control
It’s natural to feel intense emotions during conflicts—just don’t let them take over. Keeping cool is key. Take a cue from Kamala Harris, who kicked off her debate with a confident handshake and maintained a respectful tone, while expressing her reactions with smiles and head shakes. Be authentic, but remember to take a deep breath and pause before reacting. This helps you stay in control.
Build strong support
Winning an argument isn’t just about being the smartest—it’s also about having a solid support system. Sure, having Taylor Swift in your corner, like Kamala does, would be incredible for those high-stakes moments with your boss. But since that’s a bit of a stretch, concentrate on building solid relationships with people who can support you—whether with facts or moral encouragement. Leverage your network and connect with supportive friends. This boost in confidence can make all the difference in any conflict.
